Is it realistic to be on the pursuit of happiness? I mean, if happiness is our end goal, what happens when we get there? Is it realistic to fight to be happy and then to live in happiness for the rest of your life?
Happiness is a hot topic. It seems as though the world spins around a necessity of being happy and positive all the time. Social media often suggests that the prettiest picture by the beach or the newest, freshest shoes are creating the “life I’ve always wanted”. It is far too easy to get sucked into this way of thought. Because, let’s be honest, who doesn’t want to be on a beach with a cold drink forgetting about all of the problems in the world?
Now, we all may have days in our lives where we feel more positive and peepy. Then again, we may face days where the world just doesn’t seem to be spinning the right way for us. Anger, fear, anxiety, pain, sadness fill our hearts. Questions arise, “How am I supposed to be happy when X, Y, or Z happened?” or “Why is everyone else happy, and I’m not?”
A real truth: You never truly know where someone is until you’ve checked in with their emotions and feelings. (i.e. Don’t judge a book by it’s cover.)
Pursuing happiness and positivity 24/7 is simply unrealistic. How can one truly be in a state of full happiness if he gets rejected from the school of his dreams or when she has a loved one that dies? Feeling pain, sadness, or anger are all a part of this journey. It’s absolutely natural, human, and okay to feel these things.
Recently, our team here at d2e have joked about trading the our currency of money for a new currency of meaning. Yes, all in good fun, but maybe there is some truth to it. What if we focused more energy on finding meaning in our own lives? What if we sought out more meaningful connections? What if we allowed ourselves to be surprised by the meaning in our own lives?
Eckhart Tolle says, “Don’t seek happiness. If you seek it, you won’t find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness. Happiness is ever elusive, but freedom from unhappiness is attainable now, by facing what is rather than making up stories about it.” I have a feeling that in the process of being surprised by the meaning in your own life happiness may just sneak up on you.
Here’s a free challenge for the week: Trade your aim of happiness for a curiosity of the meaning and peace around you. Shoot us a message with what you find!
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